Going back to Normal

Right now, after 6 weeks of lock down and social distancing due to Covid-19, I hear many people talking about and wishing for being able to go back to normal. What does “normal” mean? Yet is it even possible to go back to that world? For the past 6 weeks we could not do or go […]

Benevolent Leadership

What does benevolent leadership mean? The original meaning of the word benevolent comes from the Latin ‘bene’ and ‘volent’ which together mean “wishing well for all”. In other words it is about being willing to be aware of what one’s actions create for everyone, not just for this moment, but also down the road, in […]

Being Who You Are

Are you who you truly are? Or are you the product of the expectations and projections of others, starting with your parents, siblings, extended family members, teachers, friends and partners? If you would have asked me that question 10 years ago, I would have answered that I am me. Today, I am aware that I […]

Go to your room

Go To Your Room Do you remember being a kid? May be you experienced being sent to your room to think about what you had done wrong? These “Stay at Home” orders that are in one way or another all over the globe remind me of that. It’s as if the earth has sent us to our […]

How to Deal with Dramatic and Traumatic Events: Five Tools to Prevent Panic

Corona virus. Right now, this word can evoke anxiety in some, in others it can lead to panic. With so much information floating around, some of which is inaccurate, how are you supposed to deal with it all? There are people who belief anything and everything they read or hear and then there are those […]

Speaking – Listening – Hearing

We all have conversations. The quality of these depends greatly from which space you come from. Speaking: From which space do you come when you speak? Do you tell a story?Do you try to convince the other about the rightness of your point of view?Do you offer a different point of view from the space of no significance?Listening […]

Thoughts on the Recent Mass Shootings in the USA

I had an interesting experience today. This morning, I was sitting with the question: What contribution can I be to stop the mass shootings? Later I read a FB post and had a reaction which led to eventually calling myself a superior bitch. Now I could have asked if it belongs to me, I could […]

The Return of the Gentleman

This is the title of a new book by Dr. Dain Heer. Yes, it is written for men and, having read it, how much of it also applies to women, gentlewomen or ladies? How different could the world be if we had more gentlemen and ladies? You can get the book in the usual places.With […]

The Freedom to Choose

Are you completely free to make a choice? If you would have asked me that question a few years ago, even a year ago, I would have said yes in a heartbeat. I was not in a situation where I would have had to deal with negative consequences because I made a certain choice – […]

Underneath the surface

The school shooting last week in Florida had me sit and look deeper. I get the call to limit access to guns, especially semi-automatic guns. Yet the question that kept coming up for me was: Will this solve the problem? Dealing with the availability of guns is dealing with the surface issue. It took me […]