What would it take for me to be spacious?
Sitting on my porch;
enjoying the view;
feeling the warmth of the early morning sun;
a slight breeze caressing my skin;
surrounded by stillness punctuated with bird songs;
my heart opens up;
I think joy and being spacious go together. You may say: In such a situation it is easy. In a way, yes it is. Are you aware that you are spacious? is my question back to you. Can you remember that sense of space when you begin to contract?
A few years ago, I used to be unaware of either space. Choosing to be more and more present with myself, I now can choose to become more spacious again when I notice I am contracted or am in the process of becoming small.
There are benefits to being spacious. How would you perceive yourself in that state? Try judging yourself at that time. It is impossible without contracting first. Would judgment from others impact you when you are spacious? How different would your look at the world around you be? Would it be worth to keep in mind? For me it is. I know it is not instantaneous that we change our habits. So I will take it a day at the time. How about you?