We have our expectations. And yes, we all know and have heard it a hundred times that we should not have any expectations. Still, somehow we do. So how do we deal with a behavior, an event, or a result that is not what we wanted, hoped for or expected? This is something that occurs for all of us, probably more often that we would like to admit.
So how can you deal with it in a way that does not get you angry or upset?
If something does not fit our expectation, we tend to go to the wrongness of it. We judge it. So the question: What is right about this I am not getting? flips this on its ear. Not only does it take us out of the judgment, it also invites us to have a different perspective. Just because an expectation has not been met, does not mean the behavior or result in itself is wrong. Are we willing to broaden our perspective, change our expectation? Are we willing to look from a different angle? You may have to keep asking the question.
This question is a tool I use often and, without fail, I am able to see that different angle I had overlooked before. It is such an invitation for more.