Yesterday, I attended a vigil. It was the first time I chose to go and, I have to say, I was disappointed. I had expected something different.
Here is the simple definition of vigil from Merriam Webster: an event or a period of time when a person or group stays in a place and quietly waits, prays, etc., especially at night.
My expectation was more along those lines. Yet there were all these speeches, all the acknowledgements of who was present. I wondered: what about coming together and just being a person who cares; no titles, no need to make statements, no event program, just simply being present with what is without making it significant?
After an hour of speeches and the beginning of musical presentations I left. I would have an easier time at home of being present with what those affected were going through. Later, at night, the question arose: Is there something I can do or be that creates change? What is at the root of this that could be changed? It became clear to me that, in the end, it is simply judgment; the need for or even addiction to judgment we have. How much do we judge something as good or bad, as right or wrong? How much do we judge ourselves or others in regards to looks, behavior, actions, or beliefs? Judgment creates judgment in others, and so the cycle keeps on going and going.
Judgment kills, literally and figuratively. Be it Orlando, be it Paris, be it all the attacks and wars that are going on all over the world. The reasons for them may be different, yet underneath it all is a judgment that says: I am right in doing this. It’s judgment that creates the polarity we are currently experiencing.
With self-judgment we kill ourselves slowly by killing our spirit / the being; with judging others we kill them in the same way by killing their spirit / being, if not outright killing them; with judgment we kill the earth. Judgment destroys, no matter which way you look at it. Is it destruction we desire or do we desire something else? Sometimes I get the image of all people being on a downslope of a rollercoaster without another up. We can create the upward if we stop judgment.
As I was drifting off to sleep, some thoughts crept in and I woke up to them: create and then present a workshop with the title ‘Stop the Judgment’. While I allow the parts and pieces for it to show themselves, I invite you to check out this post on The Awareness Revolution.
What would it take to stop judgment?