I started a Practice lab, a month long paying attention to one thing, with the theme significance.
What does it mean to make something significant? What is the impact of that on one’s life? That is what we explore during the month. It may be different for each person.
Like the cover image of the post denotes , Love is very significant for many people. It used to be significant for me too. As kids and young adults we learn that it is a goal to strive for, that life is not complete without it. What does it mean to love? How many definitions do we have for it? It made my life heavy for the love as I imagined it was often absent. Being or staying connected is now something I strive for.
What is the difference between love and staying connected you may wonder? How many ideas do we have of how one behaves who loves another one? I definitely had mine: being there for the other no matter when and where; forgiving the other no matter what; always caring for the other which often also meant putting the other first. Those were concepts I had. In the long run, they did not work,often I felt very alone and disregarded or taken advantage of. Love became a prison because I did not see a way of how to deal with situation until I became bold enough to value me too. As a result, I separated; not just physically, also emotionally and energetically. I completely severed the relationship.
Staying connected to someone allows me to say no to the other, to even physically separate from the other. At the same time, I can stay energetically connected. How often is it that we separate once we say no, almost as an auto-response? I have definitely noticed that tendency in myself. Yet, I choose to stay connected even when I physically leave for the time being. For me it has become important to stay in choice, to chose what works for me, to not having to put me last AND still be connected with someone. Staying connected to others is also operating from the Kingdom of We. I am aware of the needs the other has and I have the choice to contribute to the other or not