Judgment is an insidious killer of possibilities and, in the long run, of ourselves and the earth. The need to judge is so great it seems to be an addiction.
Now what is judgment? I have noticed that there are many who talk about it and yet do not really get what judgment is. The seemingly obvious judgment is saying something negative. Saying something positive can be as much of a judgment. It can stick the person receiving the positive judgment and it may not allow me who is doing the judgment to see what really is.
There are two parts to judgment: being the one who judges and being the one who gets judged. For the first part, being the one who judges, there is only the choice to stop it. There is no magic wand. It’s a daily choice and, over time, we judge less and less until it is gone.
Receiving judgement is different. We have been so entrained to put up our walls if someone judges us. We feel that this is protecting us and, often, has become almost an auto-response. Only, it does not protect us. Actually the opposite is true, lowering our walls in the face of judgment will stop it. I know it is not easy to do. It requires quite some presence to stop the auto-pilot. Access Consciousness has a tool called a ‘clearing’ which uses the clearing statement It is a question that brings up the energy each one of us has around receiving judgment and the clearing statement allows us to ‘sweep’ it away.
Here are some questions you might ask:
What have I made so vital about judgment that I defend against receiving it?
What would it take for me to laugh at judgment of me?
What have I made so significant about judgment that I belief it to be true when it isn’t?
In reality, judgment has nothing to do with the person receiving it. It is a point of view the person expresses in the form of judgment. Often it is something they do not want to see in themselves, they are actually judging themselves for. The only way they can deal with it is by judging someone else.
If we look at Nature, do we find judgment? No. A bird does not have a bad feather day. A dog does not judge you when you did not have the time to take him for a walk. A tree does not judge how it or other trees look. SO why are we so intent of judging ourselves? Could it be that it allows us to stay small, to not acknowledge out greatness? What would happen if we stopped our self-judgment and judgment of others? Would there be more peace? within ourselves, towards others and among people?
Here are a few video clips about judgment:
How would it be to have a day without judgment? Would you be willing to give this a try? May be once a week? How would your life be if you stopped judgment? I have been able to drastically diminish judgment in my world and I would not as far as saying that it is gone.