What! How could I put myself in a jail?
I used caps in JAIL because it is an acronym. It stands for Judgments, Agendas, Inventions, and Lies. Let’s look at each one of them individually and then see how they function as a jail for us.
Judgments: We are entrained to judge ourselves. We are aware of judgments we have of ourselves; maybe not all of them. One of the effects of this judgment is not feeling great about oneself, not claiming our greatness. (I have several posts about judgment; check them out) So we stay small, possibly even hiding from others literally or figuratively. Or we get judged by others and internalize it, make it real and true about ourselves.
Agendas: Now here we have to differentiate between the agendas we know we have and the agendas we are not even aware of. One of the main areas agendas we are not aware of fall into is the attempt to prove something. We try to prove we either are something or we are not it.
Inventions: How often do we invent things? We interpret situations, behaviors of others to mean something. In the past few years, I have become more willing to check out these interpretations and have found that in most cases they were total inventions, often based on the judgment I had of myself.
Lies: Have you ever told yourself a lie about a situation, about another person? It could be as simply saying to yourself that it is not that bad, that it will resolve itself. How often has that been the case? Hardly ever?
If you have to say something or do something, can you see how each one of them by itself influences what you do? Together, they have an even stronger impact and can form the basis of the autopilot we are so often on. Does being on autopilot mean you are free to choose in the moment? Usually not. Being unaware of one, some or all of them being in play gives you freedom in the ways you act? Usually not.
When in Access Consciousness the conversation about JAILS began and I looked at my life, it was an eyeopener. I began to see how they had ruled my life and I choose to make myself aware of each one of them. The crazy thing is that once you dig down a layer, there is more to become aware of, subtler forms of these JAILS. And, being willing to look at these JAILS, as a sudden, things are changing that I had not been able to change. Sometimes it requires the right leverage 🙂
Would you be willing to look at what JAILS you are using? It may not be comfortable. It wasn’t for me to navigate in a new space without the ‘landmarks’ I was used to. And what if it could be an incredible adventure? Would you be willing to let go of all your points of view you have in regards to what change is, how hard and difficult it is? I found that by resisting change I made it hard and difficult. When I allowed it to unfold naturally, it became easy.